Help & Advice
At ‘In Charley’s Memory’ we want to help you.
You are not alone, even if it feels like it right now. Many people have felt like there is no point in going on and have thought about suicide as a way to end the unbearable pain they are feeling. However these feelings and thoughts can change. Suicide is a permanent solution to those temporary feelings.
The struggle is real. We are here to help.
If you have other concerns with your mental health – perhaps you are anxious or depressed or lacking in confidence – these are all issues that we can help support you with too.
At ‘In Charley’s Memory’ we can help you in lots of ways;
We can listen to you – in person, over the phone or if you want to message us.
We can offer you 1-on-1 counselling, so you can work through your feelings with your counsellor, in a safe, supportive space.
We can offer you various courses and workshops that will help you understand more about your own mental health and how best to support it.
We can signpost you to other groups and sources of support.
Things you can do to help yourself RIGHT NOW!
Make contact with a friend
Go out for a walk
Read a magazine, watch television, do something you enjoy –distract your mind from the cycle of painful thoughts
Make sure you rest and eat well, and cut out, or cut back on alcohol and drugs
Give to someone or something – donate to charity, smile at a passer-by, think about volunteering
Keep yourself safe – keep busy, keep in contact with people, get out and about, even though that might be the last thing you feel like doing at the moment
In an emergency, phone the emergency services on 999
Why do I feel like this?
There are lots of reasons why our emotions, thoughts and feelings can change. You can be feeling like this for all kinds of reasons. These can include;
Significant life events – for example, a relationship break up, bereavement, exam stress, redundancy
Physical health issues and illness
Feelings can be ‘triggered’ by something
The effects of alcohol and drugs, as well as things like too much caffeine.
Lack of sleep/rest or a balanced diet
And other reasons too
At ‘In Charley’s Memory’ we can help you understand more about your own mental health and well-being so you are able to support yourself too. We will work with you in a non-judgemental way to help you develop your emotional resilience and encourage you to be more compassionate and aware of your needs.
I'm worried about someone
It can be really worrying having a friend or someone you love struggling with their mental health, especially if you are worried about saying the wrong thing.
Simply just being there for them and showing you care can make a big difference. So, asking how their day has been, or inviting them out for a coffee or meal can be good.
Listening to someone who is talking about suicide can be really tricky too. Or the person may not even want to mention those thoughts to you.
Try and reassure them that it’s not uncommon to struggle with these kinds of feelings especially if they have had a difficult event that has triggered it.
Encourage them that there is help available and suggest some people or groups they might want to contact. For example, you might suggest that they call their G.P. or the Samaritans.
You might show them our website, or the links that we share, such as Papyrus. www.papyrus-uk.org
Give them as much time as you can, and try to be as calm and non-judgemental as you can.
Help for Professionals
The workplace can be a very stressful and emotional environment. With deadlines, high pressure and interpersonal relationships work can take its toll on your emotional wellbeing.
In Charley’s Memory is a confidential organisation that can talk through your worries and problems whether it be about you or someone you work with.
If you have a pastoral responsibility for students and have a concern, In Charley’s Memory can support you.
We also offer courses that provide an insight into the struggles of mental health as well as the best way to help someone in need.
Please visit our contact page if you would like more information or support.