I feel angry…
What?
Everyone feels angry at times, it’s a part of being human. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. There are many reasons for why we feel angry. We may have been treated unfairly by others, we may feel attacked or scared, or it could be anger at our own emotions. What’s important to note is when our anger starts to control our daily lives. If your anger becomes difficult to manage and makes your life harder, consider talking to a counsellor to help you manage your anger. You can use the contact form below and we’ll get back to you ASAP.
How can I help?
Think to yourself, 'I’m feeling really angry right now' without trying to justify it or understand why. Accepting the feeling without trying to explain it can sometimes be helpful.
Take yourself out of the situation. You could go for a walk, go to a different room or log off if the situation is online.
Use a code word for when you feel angry. You could say this to others or to yourself to signal that you need some time to yourself before talking any further. This may help you avoid having to explain yourself in the moment.
Focus on what's around you. Try listing 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.
Focus on your breath. Breathe slowly and deeply. Try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. Some people find it helpful to count while doing this.
Use a grounding object. Keep a small object with you to hold and focus on when you feel angry. For example, you could use a marble, a fidget toy or a piece of fabric.
Keep notes on your phone with reminders to yourself about what to do when you feel angry.